The therapeutic effect of writing a journal
My parents divorced when I was 11 and my little sister was 7. It was difficult for both of us to process at the time, because we were so little and didn't fully understand what was going on and why this was happening. Even in a situation that wasn't particularity dramatic, there was no cheating or abuse, just two people who have realized that they are incompatible and don't make each other happy anymore. Thought there were fights for years before they separated about money and other day-to-day things, neither me nor my sister saw the divorce coming.
Watching my dad move out was heartbreaking, though from this perspective, I believe that the had made the right choice both for my sister and I and for themselves.
That said, I do believe that being a child of divorced parents has impacted the way I view relationships and marriage as a whole, though I try to work on these issues and not end up being too skeptical.
The things that helped me when my parents were going through their divorce proceedings:
- Finding stability by spending time with my grandparents
- Sharing my feelings with my sister and friends
- Trying to stay out of my parent's arguments
- Writing a journal