Go at your own pace

My parents divorced when I was 9 years old, which was just over 8 years ago. At first, admittedly I found it really difficult. They fought a lot, and at the time I was torn between them both and I was being pressured into making a choice of who to live with full time. That shouldn't have been the case but it was.

I miss having a full family but the fact that we've all overcome the mess that was created when my parents divorced is proof that things do get easier with time.

My advice to young people who are going through the difficulty of divorced parents is to not let them get you involved in their disputes, be as supportive as you can without taking sides or getting involved because it becomes very messy. Things do get easier with time.

The situation may not become any lighter or less tense, but it will definitely become easier to cope with the older you get, you learn to understand things more and you can learn a lot from it. It also builds you up to be stronger in the sense that it's one of the hardest things to deal with.

My advice to parents would be to limit involving your child as much as possible and reassure them as much as you can, it's difficult for everyone, especially if you have a child who may be a bit too young to understand the concept fully.

Divorces aren't fun, they're very destructive and the way you deal with it builds you as a person, I'm not an adult and I still don't fully comprehend much of my parents' divorce, but it has become so much easier to deal with and giving yourself time to breathe and figure it out at your own pace does justice I can promise you that.