Who will listen?
If your parents are splitting up, it is really important that you can talk about it. You should feel able to share your voice about the things that affect you.
I went years not speaking to anyone about what happened. I thought nobody would understand… Speaking to people about how you feel helps – you might think it won’t but it will – Emily, 16
What can I do to make my voice heard?
Ask your parents if they are getting help from someone and if you can talk with them, too.
For example, your parents may decide to get help from family professionals when making decisions about their future and yours. These professionals may be able to help you share your opinion and feelings.
But… your parents don’t have to agree to this or agree with your opinions.
However, do remember they and the people helping them will be working in your best interests.
These are some of the family professionals your parents may be getting to help them:
Who can I talk to?
If your parents do split up, don’t forget your family will still be your family – your grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins – on both sides. Keep in contact with both if you can.
In fact, is there someone in your family who you can talk to? Some people confide in a brother or sister. Or maybe it’s an aunt or uncle. Whoever it is, they probably won’t be able to get involved with your parents’ decision to split up but they will be able to listen.
Also, you may have friends who have been in a similar position. Talking to them can help but please consider carefully with whom you share your very private situation. And remember, when talking with friends, you don’t have to share any details you don’t want to.
If you want to talk to an adult, perhaps there is a teacher you can talk to? Or maybe there’s a youth worker, sports coach or someone at your place of worship who you feel will listen? The best rule is only talk to them where you normally see them. For example, talk to your teacher at school or your sports coach at your regular training session.
Where can I find help?
I found speaking to someone who didn’t know me was better because then they couldn’t judge me. – Emily, 16
- If you need someone to talk with and would like support from our partners, The Mix, use this tool to find more content, a freephone helpline, online forums, apps and more: open tool.
- Use our Share Your Story tool to write down your thoughts and read about others feeling the same.
- If you feel that you want to end your life, please seek immediate help from the emergency services on 999. You can also contact HopeLine UK on 0800 068 41 41 or Samaritans on 116 123. If you are being abused you can contact ChildLine on 0800 1111 or Samaritans on 116 123.